What does it take for a family to move from poverty to independence and security? Why does well-intentioned aide often do more harm than good? How can those of us with the means and desire to help be most effective?

I’ve been seeking answers to questions like these from study, conversations, and travel over the last few years. There are no easy answers. Economics, entrepreneurialism, and capital – things I know about – are involved. Things I know a lot less about like mindsets, family systems, even corruption, are involved too.

As I’ve learned more I’ve increased my intentionality about getting involved. I believe our generation has great opportunity for impact in this area. I see momentum building in awareness, generosity, and desire to be informed and effective.

In about a week I’ll be in Haiti to continue learning. I’ll be interacting with the leaders of Paulos Group and seeing their work firsthand. Not only are they innovative thinkers in this area, they are putting thought to action in a research-oriented, non-charity housing project.

I’m privileged to have connections and conversations with some amazing people working in this field. I’m looking forward to much more.

I just read “See me as a person…”, a book about the importance of authentic human connection in effective medical care. I’m convinced human connection is of great value in all areas of life and business, not just caregiving professions.

Connection comes from being present and intentionally attentive to another person — wondering, listening, valuing. I know a few people who are exceptional at this. It makes them remarkable, memorable and in-demand. Their rare level of connection forms the core of their success and influence. People are drawn to them. People are changed by those moments of connection.

I think most of us know how to tune in to another person and connect well. Sometimes we do connect well with the people around us, often we don’t. Why?

Filtering: We are interested in connecting with certain types of people more than others, and miss the opportunities for meaningful connection with many who don’t fit our favorite, most appealing, categories.

Hurry: We focus on the next task and don’t pause to make eye contact and ask a genuine question.

Fear: If we stop to connect we might be rejected, criticized, or ignored. This is the big one.

A leader who embraces opportunities for meaningful connection gains information, influence, and fulfillment of his/her own human needs. This shouldn’t be a rare thing. I want a lot more of it.